"Guilt is a very good thing if it is shared by others." - Pascal Bruckner
Mommy guilt is everywhere - it is in the kitchen when you say "I'm busy" instead of playing hide and seek, it is in the car when you yell at your child for just wanting out, it is in work when you are sent a photo of a moment you should be there for, it is outside the créche door when you had to leave tears behind you, it is even in the bathroom where you are hiding just to scroll through a Kardashian's instagram in peace.
Mommy guilt is everyone - it is the stay at home mom who feels the need to justify why but shouldn't, it is the working mom who misses a milestone, it is the maternity leave mom who is soaking up every minute, it is the working away from home mom who has to Skype for bedtime, it is the student mom who has homework too.
Mommy guilt is everyday - it is weekday mornings when you have to leave for work, it is when you arrive a little late for work because you stayed for the extra hug, it is Friday evening when you serve up take away instead of that roast chicken you had planned, it is Saturday morning when you handover your phone for YouTube videos meaning ten minutes extra shut eye, it is Sunday night when you start to dread leaving them again.
Working moms, stay at home moms, all moms - no matter what path you choose is best for your family, motherhood is both amazing and tough - and mommy guilt is just part of it.
Guilt is good.
It means we care, we care so much.
The guilt of feeling like you are not doing a good job means you are in fact doing a great one.