"When my father didn't have my hand - he had my back."
My Dad is a man of few words. However, when he does choose to share his thoughts or observations, they most definitely are worth the wait. There are also times that he does not even have to say a word, I just know he has my back. With Fathers Day approaching, I engaged in a little papa-research; all of which has made me laugh, cringe, smile and fill with awe and appreciation for those silent heroes that are our Dads. It seems a lot of us feel the same. Our mothers are always there to offer their opinions and words of wisdom (whether we ask or not!) However, our fathers, mostly, opt for a more muted approach and show their support or sympathy through actions - such as a pat on the back, a kiss on the cheek, a wink across the room, a clip across the ear!
Dads do not need to say much for us to know what they are thinking. For the majority, it seems, advice is not something they hand out too often or too easily, but when they do it is all kinds of wonderful.
I have spent the past week talking and sharing stories with friends from all walks of my life about the father figures in our lives and have put together a compilation to make us laugh, smile and be grateful for all those lessons they have taught us without even trying.
Happy Fathers Day!
Dad Advice - The Best Of
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Valentine's Day is coming up and it does not have to be all about the grown ups. I want to involve my little girls in the heart filled bubble that is Valentine's so I did a little bit of internet research and found some very sweet ideas that can be done with your kiddies to make the day special.
1. Make a card for a family member
Here are a few of my favourites. I do love puns!
2. Have pizza over candlelight
Make your own pizzas, decorate them together with all things pink and red - ham, red peppers, tomatoes and dress up to sit down to a candlelit dinner together.
3. Let them make a Valentine's mess
You mean you actually want me to make a mess? And... you're not going to go momma-crazy??
Make pink slime, fish for hearts, find things around the kitchen to print with!
4. Do a random act of kindness
Teaching kindness and compassion for others is so important to me in my own family. Why not make some cookies for your neighbours, draw a picture for an elderly person on your street, encourage them to play with someone new in school.
5. Pack them a special Valentine's Day lunch for school
Lola does not like to venture outside the ham and cheese sambos which is lucky for me because weekday mornings are not exactly full of time to cut out heart shaped pear pieces.... however looking at these pictures I think I could give it a go for Valentine's Day.
6. Make a Valentine's craft together
I love anything to do with cutting, making and sticking so this is one I will definitely do, but I know not everyone is as Prit-Stick happy as me - so I've had a look for some quick and easy ones you could try without buying a Tesco cart of art supplies.
7. Send them on a heart hunt around the garden
Saving my favourite one until the end- Hide chocolate hearts around the garden or house which they have to search for. Maybe the love monster can leave a heart shaped map to lead them to his hiding places.
Share any of your own ideas in the comments below.
When you have kids (and your immediate family decide to move 174km away from you) date nights are few and far between. So when the opportunity arises to be wearing something other than your Penny's hoodie after 7pm on a Friday night.... *insert over-excited emoji here*
Jamie and I had one of those impromptu date nights over the weekend, which was as overdue as tweezing my eyebrows/unibrow! I cannot tell you how much we needed that time together. Even though it ended with both of us passing out cold on the couch on our return (and waking up to a 5.30 alarm call called Sadie and exhaustion drool rolling down my chin) we were in such a happy place for the rest of the weekend.
Reconnecting with each other is so important and so necessary. It can be easy to lose touch in the conveyor belt that is day-to-day family life. Personally, I know I get so wrapped up in work, grinds, play time, bath time, etc, a day can go by when I have not even thrown Jamie a smile - enter ice queen!!! He is so much better than me -he will always make sure to put his arms around me as I'm making Lola's lunch or kiss my forehead before he leaves for work. Our time together on Friday night really refocused me and reminded me how I need to do the same. I need to stop and defrost. I forget how much I need it too.
In the words of Carrie Bradshaw - I got to thinking...
Date nights are key, and because it is not always possible to get out (due to shortage of babysitters, shortage of cash, or shortage of get-up-and-go), I don't think that should stop us! Why not do date night takeaway style - but a takeaway we won't regret in the morning.
With this in mind, I have decided to ruffle my brain cells and compile a list, a list to be drawn upon when we just need to touch base, no matter the shortage.
To take away please....
Takeaway Date Nights
Jamie and I had a spontaneous date night on Friday night - date night meaning the two kids were actually in bed asleep before the Late Late Show intro (yes, I'm aware my Friday night is about as exciting as buttering a slice of toast). This gave us an unexpected window to have a few pinots and actually talk! After we reminded each other just how utterly exhausted we both are and all the reasons why (aka the 'who is the most tired parent?' competition), we got talking about being married. We celebrated our first anniversary last month and for me, it seemed that the past year had been our biggest learning curve. One year on, we are the same couple, imperfect but infatuated, and always learning.
After reflection (and a wine migraine), I would like to share with you the ten things we have learnt since saying 'I Do.'
I remember watching Don't Tell the Bride the week before our wedding was aired and saw an episode where the couple got married in IKEA. As shocked as the beautiful Celine was to be be heading up the escalator in her wedding dress, all I could think was - well who better than IKEA to decorate a wedding ceremony?! And, just like the bride, the room looked stunning.
You may not have thought of it, but IKEA are also a great place to pick up all those little wedding bits and bobs to save you money as well as bring personality to your big day!
1. Stock up on miscellaneous frames. You can use them for so much - table numbers, table plans, photo booth props or remembering those who can not be there.
2. Use net curtains as a backdrop for your ceremony, photobooth or as a table runner.
3. Use tin cans, jugs and buckets to hold and display flowers, drinks, sparklers or cutlery. You could even paint them with spray or chalk paint.
4. IKEA has a huge range of fabric and the price per metre is so reasonable. It can be used for backdrops, bunting or table runners.
5. Glass-wear is abundant in IKEA - bottles, jars, glasses. You could use them for flower display, treats, table numbers.
6. Write on the glass of a mirror to create a unique table plan or welcome message. You can use a mirror with an ornate frame or paint it whatever colour you like.
7. Paint up a children's chalk board to display the day's events or a cute greeting for your guests. Decorate with wild flowers in IKEA bottles or pots.
8. Use IKEA lanterns for centrepieces, floral display or to create soft lighting in your ceremony. You can paint them also.
9. Paint up IKEA's mini greenhouse as a place for your guests to put cards in or again for floral display.
10. IKEA's range of candles and candle holders are not just vast but also beautiful. No matter what colour or size you are looking for they have it.
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